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How To Overcome Resistance

As I mentioned in my previous blog post, resistance is a powerful force that keeps us from creating the life of our dreams.

We may not beat resistance completely but we can manage it on a daily basis. Resistance is like an enemy that we have to face every day of our lives.

Here are some techniques to overcome resistance:

1)      Become aware of it! Most of the time, we are not aware that the resistance is there. Instead of doing the most important thing, we go and do something else. We watch TV instead of writing an ebook. That is resistance. Recognising resistance is the first step to counteract it.

2)      Become a pro. This is the main technique that Steven Pressfield explains in his book The War of Art: A professional shows up on the job every day no matter what but an amateur keeps saying “I’ll do it tomorrow”. Make the attitude switch in your mind from being an amateur to being a professional. Have a routine!

3)      Have courage. Face fear and do whatever you need to do. Don’t wait for the fear to go away because it will never go away as long as you continue to grow. Most of us believe that we must first overcome our fears and then do our work. The truth is, fear can never be overcome and no one achieves anything of significance without experiencing fear.

4)      Take baby steps. If you want to write an ebook, write the first line, then the first paragraph, then the first page. If you write just one page every day, you will have written 60 pages within two months. Just take lots of baby steps. They become cumulative and become breakthroughs.

5)      Show up more. Woody Allen said “80 per cent of success is just showing up”. Show up so that the world knows who you are and what you can offer. Don’t hide out and don’t wait to feel confident to show up. Confidence shows up when we do. An imperfect execution is better than perfect planning. Be visible in the world, put yourself out there to be seen and known.

6)      Educate yourself and develop a strategy. For example, if you want to become self-employed, find information on how to set up a business and learn what steps you need to take. Make a plan.

7)      Get support and encouragement. One of the most important things to help us overcome resistance is to surround ourselves with like-minded people who are walking a similar path and going through similar experiences. Create a circle of supporting people who are experiencing resistance from within and from those around them.

8)      Do not focus on yourself. Focus on fulfilling your true potential and sharing your gifts with the world. Your contribution to other people’s lives is more important than your fears.

9)      Trust in your own growth. Have faith.

It is a myth that successful people do not have resistance. Most successful people still experience resistance and it is NORMAL. They just know how to overcome it on a daily basis and they don’t let their resistance squash their potential.

Finally, don’t forget that all the tips in the world won’t make a difference unless you just sit down and start!

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Posted by on January 31, 2012 in Resistance

 

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Resistance: The Biggest Obstacle To Success

“Most of us have two lives. The one we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands resistance.”  ~ Steven Pressfield, author of The War of Art.

Resistance is the inner force that distracts us and prevents us from doing an important work. It is one of the biggest obstacles in achieving our dreams and it stands in the way of our greatness. Most of us never express our talents because of resistance. UK’s leading coach and author Nick Williams estimates that about 80% of human talent and potential goes unrealised because of people’s resistance.

Resistance shows up when we want to do something more meaningful and important.

See if you relate to any of the following:

  • You dream of writing a novel but you do not write it,
  • You want to leave your boring job and work on something you love but you don’t do anything about it,
  • You buy a treadmill and let it gather dust in the attic,
  • You have an idea for a great business but you do not start it,
  • You have an inner dialogue that operates to sabotage even the best planned projects,
  • You procrastinate,
  • You play small,
  • You make excuses,
  • You hide,
  • You doubt,
  • You overthink,
  • You hesitate,
  • You start an important project but never finish it,
  • You come up with all kinds of reasons not to do the very thing you should be doing.

This is called “resistance”. Resistance works hard to sabotage our success, it prevents us from fulfilling our potential and realising our biggest dreams. It is so powerful that it scares us from doing what we most want to be doing. Resistance kills our inspired ideas and stops us from doing the work we were put on this planet to do. It is the enemy within us.

Why are we faced with resistance when we want to make important changes in our lives? Because our ego is threatened when we want to change the status quo. The ego wants to stay in the comfort zone in order to maintain a sense of being in control. It likes what is familiar, therefore pulls us back into our old comfort zone like a giant magnet.

Resistance operates in many different ways. It might look like any or all of the following:

  • Procrastination (It’s not the right time / I’ll do it tomorrow / I have more important things to do today)
  • Laziness (I just don’t feel like doing this right now)
  • Lack of time (I am excessively busy)
  • Confusion (This is too complicated)
  • Perfectionism (My post is not good enough so I won’t publish it)
  • Excessive need for information (I’ll do it after I’ve read ten more books)
  • Undervaluing oneself (I’m not good enough to succeed in this)
  • Internal distractions (Let me check Facebook first)
  • Despair (I’ll never make it)

Resistance shows up when when we want to do something more meaningful / really important. It is an excellent teacher because it shows us our life’s purpose and where we need to go to do bigger and more meaningful things.

Resistance is so powerful that it will keep us from creating the life of our dreams if we don’t recognise it and learn to manage it. In my next post we’ll be looking at some of the ways to overcome resistance.

 
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Posted by on January 18, 2012 in Resistance

 

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“11 Obsessions of Remarkable Entrepreneurs” by Robin Sharma

Robin Sharma (Author of the #1 bestsellers “The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari” and “The Leader Who Had No Title”) has recently recorded a video called “11 Obsessions of Remarkable Entrepreneurs”. I was so impressed with his video that I decided to share it with my readers here. It is well worth watching if you are planning to start your own business or if you are already a business owner and want to multiply your productivity.

I have written down a summary of the recording below but I highly recommend that you watch the video as well. This is truly one of the most inspiring and powerful videos I’ve watched in a long time. Thank you Robin for making this available to us!

Here is the link to the video => http://www.theremarkableentrepreneur.com/11-obsessions

If you want to have access to more of his videos as well as other great resources like this one, you can like Robin’s Facebook page and/or follow him on Twitter:
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11
Obsessions of Remarkable Entrepreneurs

1. Remarkable Entrepreneurs understand that the quality of the practice determines the caliber of the performance.

What makes a great athlete is not just what they do on the game but what they do before they play the game. What makes a great entrepreneur is what they do before they get to work / before they hit the stage.

What do you do before you get to work?

The Pro Athlete Protocol: Mental, physical + emotional preparation. Get up early, do some exercise and find some time to learn / to read. If you want to double your sales, triple the amount that you invest in your professional development and your own education.

2. Bureaucrats talk about people, gossip and problems, Remarkable Entrepreneurs talk about possibilities, dreams, solutions and creating results.

Everytime there is a problem, they think “What’s the opportunity here?”, “How can we leverage this situation to build a better company?”. They trained their brains to focus on possibilities and results.

3. Remarkable Entrepreneurs understand that they are paid not just to work, but they are paid to be scared.

The best entrepreneurs play out on the edges and take calculated risks daily or weekly. They challenge the way they performed yesterday.

4. To have what only 1% of the entrepreneurial population have, you must be willing to do what only 1% of the entrepreneurial population are willing to do.

Luck is something that people earn. The best entrepreneurs do things that are difficult, they do things that cause them to stretch and that require commitment.

You must be willing to do what the few do:

  • Take risks.
  • Take time to think alone in silence. As Michael Gerber says, work on your business, not just in your business.
  • Study your business.
  • Get up early.
  • Have clarity on your 90 day goals, 1 year goals, 5 year goals.
  • Build relationships.
  • Listen to your customers.
  • Persist.

5. Bureaucrats are threatened by change, Remarkable Entrepreneurs are inspired by change.

Best entrepreneurs understand that when they grow their business they will experience alternating cycles of confusion to get to the next level of clarity. Truly remarkable entrepreneurs understand that a change is required to get them to the next level of profits, success and fulfillment.

6. Bureaucrats have jobs, Remarkable Entrepreneurs have crafts.

You want to see your work not just as work but an opportunity to develop your talents so you stand in full self-expression. The best entrepreneurs don’t do it just for the money, they do it for the pride they feel on creating world-class products and doing genius-level work. Few things would make you happier than knowing you are going to work every day and working towards expressing your creativity, your talent, your passion, while making the world a better place because ultimately the purpose of business is to change the world. The ultimate secret of happiness is using your life and talents to make a difference.

7. Remarkable Entrepreneurs understand that an addiction to distraction is the death of creative production.

The average entrepreneur is spending two hours a day in distractions, i.e. they spend 14 hours a week being busy doing not much of anything.

The best entrepreneurs understand that the whole key in business is to shift out of complexity + busy-ness to simplicity + focus. Clean out distractions and focus on the few high leverage activities that will truly get your business to where you want it to get to.

8. Bureaucrats wait until they get the energy to do the work, Remarkable Entrepreneurs understand that to get the energy you have to first do the work.

When you do a difficult task, there will be a corresponding release of “The Three Entrepreneurial Gifts”:

  1. Release of more motivation (you’ll feel like doing more)
  2. Release of more confidence (you’ll feel you can do more)
  3. Release of energy (the more work you do, the more energy is released)

9. Remarkable Entrepreneurs understand that the bigger the dream the more important your team.

Populate your business with world-class people and then coach them, train them, educate them everyday.

Leadership is about influence (moving people into action by your example, by your mastery, by your passion).
Leadership is about impact (less talk more results, less meetings more execution).
Leadership is about inspiration (best leaders understand that their job is to grow other leaders).

10. Remarkable Entrepreneurs populate their lives with people whose lives they want to be living.

Not only the people that they allow into their lives but also the environments that they expose their mindsets and their energy too, including their office and home.

11. Remarkable Entrepreneurs are obsessed fundamentally with giving.

Focus on producing work that wows your customers. Do not ask yourself “what can I get?”, ask yourself “who may I help?”. Business is about producing unusual value for as many people as possible. Focus less on what is in it for you, focus more on doing the work.

 

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Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs are those beliefs about ourselves that limit our abilities. They are just assumptions about reality and they are not true. They seem true because we have decided they are.

Some examples of limiting beliefs are:
“I am not good enough”
“I can never be successful”
“Noone likes me”

These limiting beliefs hold us back from success, happiness and achieving our true potential.

Most limiting beliefs are formed unconsciously. When we are young, we believe what our parents and teachers say to us. If we are constantly told that we are not good enough, we believe that and it becomes a reality for us.

The good news is that limiting beliefs can be replaced with empowering ones. If you have a limiting belief that is holding you back, write it down and answer the following questions:

1. Who gave me this belief?

2. How do I feel about the person that gave me this belief? Do I respect them? Are/were they always right? What is their history?

3. What is this belief costing me on a daily basis?

4. What will holding this belief mean for me in the long term?

5. How will my life be different if I let go of this belief?

Now write an opposite belief to the one you hold and look for evidence to support your new belief. If you cannot find any evidence at all, ask your partner, friends, children, or anyone else you know and trust. If you have a coach or a mentor, ask them. You will find the evidence and you will believe it because you now have the evidence.

Start living your life with this new belief. Do things that will make you feel more confident and proud of yourself. Keep a journal and record your success.

 
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Posted by on July 26, 2011 in Limiting beliefs

 

It Is Never Too Late To Start Your Own Business

Do you think you are too old to change your life and work at something you love? If your answer is yes, think again.  Around the world an increasing number of people are pursuing their passions and starting their own businesses. It is NEVER too late to follow your dreams. Many people are doing it, why can’t you?

Kay Illingworth, 52, from UK was devastated when her marriage ended after 19 years.  She found comfort in food and put on nearly 100 pounds of weight. For three years she cut herself off from the world. One day she was ready to embrace life again and decided to lose weight with the help of a dietitian. She didn’t want to weigh her portions and that is how The Diet Plate ® , the world’s first ever “Portion Control” plate was born. She patented and registered it, wrote to over 1000 dietitians in the UK and USA telling them all about The Diet Plate ® and within weeks many had requested samples. She then got on CNN Headline News. She believed in her product, took the first step and built up a brand that is now sweeping the UK. She lost her extra weight too!:-) http://www.thedietplate.com

Hannah Van Dijk, 37, from UK was made redundant from her position as a marketing executive at an online bank. Instead of looking for another job, she decided to pursue her old dream of running her own retail operation. Less than a year after losing her job, she launched her shop The Welsh Farming Company. She now says “The shop is doing better than I could have imagined and we have now launched our online store”. http://www.welshfarmhousecompany.com

Eve Davies worked as a nurse for nearly three decades before launching her own business offering personalised tours of Britain. She was 62 years old when she and her husband Peter started to run Cambrian Routes, an award-winning specialist holiday service. Now they are planning their next two ventures: One will be taking over a shop in a wonderful little sailing village to sell water sports goods, clothing for walkers, kites and quality gifts. The other is the purchase of a holiday chalet to let. http://www.cambrianroutes.com

So, are you ready to follow your dreams and make money from your passions? If you think you don’t know what you want to do, download my free report 10 Powerful Questions To Help You Discover The Work You Love and subscribe to this blog to receive notifications of my new posts by email. Remember, nothing is stopping you from creating and running a business around the work that is meaningful to you. First, find the work you love and then take baby steps to reach your goal. I will discuss the importance of baby steps on another post so make sure to come back to my blog regularly to check out my latest posts.

 
 

My Story – Part 2

So, instead of complaining for the rest of my life, I decided to take action. I wanted to find the work I love and then create a business around it. I bought several books on the subject and read them all. I went to seminars and workshops. I hired a coach and received 12 sessions of coaching. I surrounded myself with like-minded people. I went to a personal development coaching course with the hope that it would help me find the work I would love to do. I liked the course so much that I decided to continue my education and receive a coaching diploma.

While I was studying for my coaching qualification, I was also working at my corporate job. I started coaching my clients in the evenings and at the weekends. Although I was a trainee coach, all my clients said how much I helped them during our sessions and this was a great motivation for me.

I got my diploma after 18 months of study. That is when I decided to specialise on a niche. I started reading books on the subject, spoke to my clients and a few experienced coaches. In the end, we all agreed that my niche was helping people discover the work they love. I took up further training and also read several books to improve my expertise.

I set up my business on the side while I was working in my job. When I felt ready, I left the corporate world. Almost everyone was shocked. Some didn’t understand why I was leaving such a “great job”. Others looked at me with envy. A few people thought I was making a big mistake.

3 years have passed since I left my corporate job and I did not regret my decision for one second. That was one of the best decisions I have ever made. Now I can work whenever I want and wherever I want. In addition to my coaching business, I have set up another business on internet. I have other plans too.

I have started this blog in order to share my experience with you, inspire you to discover the work you were born to do and create your dream business. Feel free to leave a comment and ask me questions.

 
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Posted by on June 30, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

My Story – Part 1

I am sitting on the verandah of my summer house, eating the apricots I just picked from the tree in my garden and working on my laptop as squirrels climb the trees just a few meters away from me.

Three years ago today I was working for a big multinational company in London. My salary was good, I was paid bonus at the end of every year and promoted every couple of years. I was traveling to exotic places on my holidays and staying in luxury resorts . This looked like a dream job from outside and many people were looking at me with envy.

They had no idea how I was feeling inside. I was working in a stressful office environment, trying to meet the deadlines, feeling anxious as to whether our clients would accept our offer, going on exhausting business trips abroad and more or less doing the same thing everyday. I was bored. I lost my motivation and I didn’t want to go to work anymore. I hated 9 to 5 (sometimes 8 to 9) because I wanted to be able to choose my working hours.

I worked in the corporate world for 18 years and I really loved my career in the beginning. When I was studying at the university, my dream was to hold a senior position in a big company and I achieved it much quicker than I thought. But one day I realised it wasn’t what I wanted to do for the rest of my life. I didn’t want to be stuck in an office whole day every day doing the same thing. I needed to discover the work I love and then set up my own business.

 

 
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Posted by on June 29, 2011 in My story